5.26.17 Meditation: Moderation

This morning I went outside to do some yoga but I was interrupted mentally by one pressing thought: Moderation. It’s a theme I have struggled with for a long time. I’ve got a highly perfectionist, OCD-tendency, addiction-prone personality that doesn’t allow a lot of space for something so gray as moderation. I am working on unlearning some of my black-and-white thinking, and it’s an ongoing process.

I know that I am not the only person who struggles with moderation. There are so many things that are easy to take too much of:

  • Self-criticism
  • Self-deprecation
  • External affirmation (think “internet approval,” likes, views)
  • Facebook, Instagram, Twitter… the internet in general
  • Food, alcohol, drugs
  • Shopping. Buying stuff.
  • Working
  • Competition. Success.

Then there are the things that these “excesses” take away from:

  • Self confidence
  • Individuality
  • Free time
  • Sleep
  • Mental and physical health
  • Joy
  • Relaxation
  • Taking pleasure in the achievements of others
  • Receiving and giving praise or compliments

Why do we struggle to allow ourselves the things on the second list, yet we are so willing to indulge in the first list?

Where is the balance between

  • Graceful acceptance of praise,
    and beating yourself up
    (or gloating?)
  • Allowing yourself to indulge without guilt,
    and feeling guilty/unworthy
    (or bingeing?)
  • Having high expectations of yourself or others,
    and being constantly disappointed

Where is your personal line currently drawn? Does it need to shift? What inner narrative needs to change to allow for balance between what we take for ourselves and what we give to others? Is there a healthy way to take from the first list? Is it possible to have too much of something on the second list?

 

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